Don’t Force Something That Doesn’t Fit

Posted in Life
on March 1, 2017
Don't force something that doesn't fit

As I get older & gain more experiences, I learn to assess the things, people, etc. that I currently have in my life in order to determine if they continue to fit.

The questions that run through my head are:

Does it add value to my life?

Does it make me happy?

Does it help me to achieve your goals?

Do you get what you need, whatever that is?

Yes, those are selfish questions. But I’m okay with that because we all need to be a little selfish with our time, our minds & our hearts.

Lately, I’ve been thinking quite a bit about a particular situation that I have going on in my life. It started out fresh & exciting, and after a long year of struggling, this new situation made me feel like myself again. But then in just months, something changed. Something felt different. Maybe it was my expectations setting me up for disappointment once again. Maybe I started to want it so bad and being patient was getting old. Or maybe I was trying to make something happen that wasn’t meant to happen.

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As I thought about it, I had to consider that maybe I needed to take a step back to refocus on the priorities – writing, starting my online business, and of course, focus on being a present & healthy parent for my daughter.

I forced a shift in my mindset because forcing a situation wasn’t doing me any good. And I deserve ALL of the good things.

Whether it’s a new job, new situation, new relationship – if it doesn’t feel right, if it’s not the right timing, don’t force it. Stop. Reset. Remember to be patient. And keep it moving.

How do you know if it’s not the right timing?

Everyone’s situation is different. But I guarantee that we’ve all experienced times when things just didn’t come together no matter how much we tried or prayed. We’ve all experienced that uneasy feeling in our gut that spoke louder than words. It is those times that I believe tell us when the timing isn’t right.

This is just my reminder to you to stay the course. Your time is coming, so don’t force it. Continue to work hard & have faith in the meantime. Go with the flow. The good that you put out there will come back to your tenfold.

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  • Stacie

    Sound advice, sis! If it doesn’t feel right in your gut, it’s probably not the right fit for your life.

    March 4, 2017 at 1:03 pm Reply
  • Mimi Green

    I try to trust my gut, some days are easier than others with that. If I have to force it then I know it isn’t meant to be.

    March 4, 2017 at 10:27 pm Reply
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